True Life: I'm an introvert

I'd be lying if I said I haven't been accused of not liking people or being shy. 

(Kyle said "you're not shy, you just mind your own business." True!)

Let me explain...

During college I had the opportunity to take the Myers Briggs assessment. I learned that I fall more on the introverted side of the personality trait continuum. [By learned I really mean confirmed.]

Here are my results: "INFP- Idealistic, loyal to their values and to people who are important to them. Want an external life that is congruent with their values. Curious, quick to see possibilities, can be catalysts for implementing ideas. Seek to understand people and to help them fulfill their potential. Adaptable, flexible and accepting unless a value is threatened."

I find this to be pretty spot on!

Generally speaking, an introvert is characterized by their internal focus. They don't usually gravitate toward external stimulation. Quiet and calm settings tend to be more ideal. 

Anyway, I thought it would be fun to explore a few trends surrounding more introverted personality types. 

Since, you know, it's hard for us to explain this shit to your face. ;)

introvert
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// introvert does not mean shy : Sure, plenty of people are shy and that's completely fine. Shyness however does not explain introversion. Shy people avoid social situations out of anxiety/fear whereas introverts avoid social situations because, well, they want to.

quiet introvert


// going out with friends is not relaxing : phew! There. I said it.  After an evening having dinner and drinks with friends I'M TIRED and need a break!  I really did have fun! BUT, I spend energy being social whereas most extroverts actually draw energy from social situations.

quiet introvert


// the entertaining issue : Maybe you've noticed your introverted friend doesn't invite you to their house very often. This isn't because they don't like you or their house is ghetto---it's because they want the freedom to be "done" socializing on their own terms. It's really tough to get up and leave your own home once you've spent all of your social energy for the day...

// text messaging and emails are from the heavens : I know, I know Dad--"why don't you just pick up the phone and call?!" Having the freedom to respond when we're ready and socialize/connect with less pressure is SO NICE! I think introverts are probably the worst at screening phone calls, ducking and diving when we spot someone we know in public or pretending we aren't home when the doorbell rings. We need social prep time! And shoot, if I'm feelin' it I may just pick up the phone and call. ;)  But maybe later, k?

quiet introvert phone
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// the interactive audience : *cringe* I can think of very few things I enjoy less than a show where audience interaction is required. No, I don't want to talk in front of a large group of people for the sake of "flow" or engagement. UGH!

quiet introvert

// constantly angry or sad : That look on our face... yeah, it's always like that. Nothing's wrong. Swear.

introvert facial expression



// confession : ok fine! Sometimes I'm just pretending to read a book or listen to music so everyone will just leave me alone.

introvert quiet


// eating lunch or going to the movies : Sometimes it's nice to do these things... alone. It's not sad! We are really enjoying ourselves :)

I want to stress that I believe introversion/extroversion is not a cut and dry personality trait but rather as individuals we fall somewhere on a continuum. So, of course I'm speaking in generalities.

That's it for now!

For the record: At my core, I do love people, especially when I can help them!

Have you hugged an introvert today?

No? Good!

We appreciate it ;)

16 comments:

  1. I'm so surprised you didn't mention your overly talkative sister! This is great to know though!

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    1. I could write you an entire BOOK on introvert - isms :)

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  2. I can totally relate! I would say I gravitated more to the introvert side after having kids! I am just to worn out to want to be social. Can entertaining my three kids count as being an extrovert? because to them I am overly talkative....

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    1. Totally counts! I'm a social freaking butterfly since having Mallory....to Mallory ;)

      Sadly, she only thinks i'm funny some of the time...womp womp

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  3. Wow... a lot of these described me and I would've never thought myself as so much of an introvert! I'm not shy at all but what you say about being an introvert and being shy NOT going hand in hand together makes a LOT of sense!

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    1. If that damn Myers Briggs test didn't cost $$-- you should totally take it! Maybe there is a knock off somewhere in Google land...
      I think the key trait of an introvert is feeling drained after social activity rather than excited.
      :)

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  4. Have you read the book "Quiet"? If not, you NEED to read it. You will LOVE it: http://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

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    1. I've stumbled across it more than once! Looks like it's about time I bought it :) Thanks for the recommendation!

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  5. LOL, I feel like I've seen a BuzzFeed article floating on FB about introverts. I fall right in the middle. In my first nursing job, I was accused of being shy, a snob, a bitch by a lot of my coworkers. It tore me up, and I really didn't tlak to many people cause I was so concentrated on not killing any of my patients! Ha! Sometimes I want to be alone with my thoughts or a book, yet sometimes I want to be out and being loud with my friends. I know I've taken the Myers Briggs test, I just can't remember what my results were... fail

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    1. I just went to find that BuzzFeed article! SO FUNNY! What is it with the introvert = bitch?! Don't get it.

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  6. I can totally relate to this post especially the look on my face. So many times I feel like telling people "It's just my normal face so back off!" And to the talking on the phone. I despise it all the awkwardness of it.

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    1. YES! Or "No nothing is wrong but if you keep asking me..." hahaha

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  7. I have always been a bit introverted and I too (thanks psych degree!) also took the Meyer Briggs Assessment and was not surprised by my results at all. I get very frustrated with people thinking that I am unhappy or do not like them because I do not talk so much. I wish the world would realize there are two different types of people: the talker and the listener. I am a listener and will talk when I have an opinion, no doubt, but otherwise I prefer to just listen. My introverted self may be why I do not like drama at all. I like alone time and I enjoy staying in on the weekends! Anyway, great post :) I can totally relate to every single one of your points. Happy Wednesday!

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    1. Talker and Listener. I like that way of putting it! :)

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  8. First, I came here because I saw your banner on another site and I once had a blog called "Marry Mint" because it was a play on name for "merriment". Just thought it's weird how we thought the same thing! ALSO, I'm an introvert as well and this post literally made me laugh because it's all so true and you added your own touch of humor to it! I absolutely love it!

    I'm a new follower. :)

    - Kerri
    http://kerriwaller.com

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    1. Hi Kerri!! So so happy to have you! I like you already because clearly you have great taste in blog titles and humor ;) Going to stalk your blog now!

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