27 July 2015

SAHM Fashion Crisis || SOLVED!



A few months ago I shared a personal dilemma with you. It's a very, very "first world problems" kind of situation, but you know how it is...Anyway, you can read that post here. The gist is that I've been struggling to define or identify my personal fashion style as it applies to my life as a stay at home mom. This dilemma isn't due to the fact that I don't care about my appearance, I do. I feel more confident and I'm more productive when I make an effort to pull myself together. As superficial as it may sound, my appearance is important to me. ME. The fashion dilemma also isn't because I don't have the time to get dressed or curate a new look everyday. In fact, I would estimate that I "get dressed" approximately 4-5 times a day thanks to my kids' unruly bodily functions and messy playtime activities. Seriously, the amount of bodily fluids I come in contact with daily as the mom of two under two would require scrubs in a professional setting. Why in the hell would I want to be dressed to the nines for a day of leaking breastmilk, spit up, pee, pasta sauce and dirt? I. WOULDN'T! I don't. 

Here's what I do want... I want to feel good in the clothes I choose to wear. I want to feel pretty and comfortable but also not have to worry about that nastiness Mallory just wiped on me ruining my $200 jeans. I don't want to have to think twice about my choice footwear being comfortable enough for a trip to Target followed by a jaunt at the playground. What does this mean? This means I'm not buying heels to wear for two hours while I go out to dinner with my family on the weekends. It means I'm not buying those awesome button up blouses from J.Crew because they are restricting as all hell when you're carrying a heavy carseat, a thrashing toddler and your purse walking into the grocery store. It means I'm sure as hell not wearing those fun, trendy statement necklaces anymore because it makes my chest less snuggle-able to my infant son and makes me an easy strangling target for my toddler. I'm not going to put together a fancy-shcmancy, impractical outfit to leave the house for a few errands, only to change into something more functional the instant I get back home. The reality is now, I'M A STAY AT HOME MOM! I don't have a morning business meeting or lunch with a coworker or a cooperate training event at any point during my day. My day consists of caring for, loving, teaching, and playing with my children. My day consists of grocery store trips, play dates and housework. This is my real life and you know what? I absolutely love it! So why not dress the part? My part?

So, what is my style? How should I dress? What do I wear? I wear what works. Then I get one in every color. ;) For me, that means a majority of the time I'll be wearing, jeans, a fun tee and sneakers. Its a "look" that can be dressed up with a simple swipe of bold lipstick or by throwing on chic blazer/jacket or by adding a killer handbag. It's a look that is timeless. Most importantly, it's a look that works

Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of occasions when I browse Pinterest and build an imaginary, fantasy-land closet of awesome pieces that just don't work for me right now. Or I find myself swooning over my favorite fashion bloggers' latest #ootd. I enjoy fashion and I LOVE to shop, but I've decided that it is totally fun, exciting and satisfying to appreciate someone else's sense of style and their bold, fashion forward choices while simultaneously thinking "I wouldn't wear that." I guess what I'm saying I've learned is that a big part of my style, during this season of my life is function and that is perfectly ok! I can work with that. I can make functional, chic! Moving forward, I want to focus my fashion related time, effort and money on growing a collection of timeless, versatile, classic pieces while cultivating a chic and PRACTICAL wardrobe for myself as stay at home mom. 

My hope is that this word vomit makes some kind of sense and that this "dilemma" is relatable for someone. I also hope you'll follow along with me as I periodically document my functional fashion finds and wear them on repeat with no particularly show-stopping deviation? ;) What about the occasional wish list post as I drool over the closet staples that I hope to add to my collection?

Remember I hinted at some upcoming subtle blog changes? This is kind of the biggest one...While I can't get behind being fashion forward (wrap your mind around that sentence) I'm definitely willing to drop some dolla dolla bills on skincare and beauty products... 

Disclaimer :: I totally get that there are stay at home moms who are are truly passionate about fashion. They get dressed in things I couldn't pull off on the daily because fashion makes them tick. That is a-okay! Do you! Fashion just isn't that for me... 



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